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Communication

This is a rare post in which I take Michelle’s advice to talk about my feelings. Don’t believe the hype.

As you may be aware, Michelle and I have been taking premarital counseling. So far we haven’t gotten the veto to get married. That’s a win in my book.

This past session’s topic was on love languages, how we give and receive love. Unfortunately, Na’vi is not one of the love languages as someone suggested. We had to rank how we receive love and how our partner receives love. We nailed it. Both of us knows exactly how the other one wants to be loved.

Still while we understand each other’s love languages, it’s still hard to communicate it. We all perceive the world different and though we may think it makes perfect sense, it may not translate that well to another individual. She may say, “Do you want to do something fun tonight?” I will hear, “Do you want to play video games while I clean the house and serve you beer while topless?” Maybe that’s an extreme example, but the concept is still accurate.

There’s not magic trick in understanding your partner, just a lot of hard work in paying attention, but something tells me I should hurry up and get the couch for our place so I don’t have to sleep on the floor when there’s a misunderstanding.

Premarital counseling. Probably as boring as it sounds.

Tonight is the first session of premarital counseling for Michelle and me. Apparently a shared love for being intoxicated is not enough. I don’t have any idea what to expect, but I hope to get through all the sessions without being given the recommendation not to get married.

In order to prepare myself, I will be quizzing Michelle on the car ride over. What is your favorite color? Do you have any history of heart disease in your family? If you could be any animal, what animal would you be? We’re totally going to win this counseling thing.

I could also take the approach my friend suggested and answer everything ambiguously gay.